Every time we visit Chicago, I wonder how long before it stops feeling like home.

tim and adam in the car
Chicago_driving
Chicago_timshanna

And while missing your family at 30 is not as popular as missing them your freshman year (anyone else cry with “Parenthood” last week?), the truth is that I still miss mine. I miss my dad’s tender heart and my mom’s loud giggle and my brother’s ability to find the coolest new places and products everywhere he goes. My dad picks us up from the airport last Wednesday and we don’t stop talking until we’re in his garage, despite a 20-minute detour when we’re so caught up in conversation that we miss our exit; my mom fills the fridge with food she knows we’ll like; my brother sidekicks with us through dinner in Bucktown, shopping in the suburbs, late-night movies and TV. Sometimes the pain of missing them is so strong that the joy of these visits almost gets overshadowed, like I can’t soak it up while awaiting another goodbye—but, for the first time, instead of feeling embarrassed about this attachment, I am realizing: that’s because my family’s pretty great.

table_topandaway

The last night we’re in town, we decide to do an outdoor dinner—take a table and chairs to the backyard, cut flowers from the bushes, carry pots and dishes from the kitchen to the basement and through walk-out doors.

table_andadam

My mom slow-cooks some taco meat; Tim and Adam and I bake sprouted tortilla chips and kale chips and pull together a big salad from leftovers in the fridge. There’s sangria filled with peaches and strawberries; we pour water into tall carafes and add slices of lime. And then, just before twilight, we all come around the table and, together, we eat.

kale chips
the table
dad and adam
tim
salad
a's plate
passing strawberries

Friday night, falling into bed, Tim and I talk about how much we’ve enjoyed the meal—and the people we shared it with.

“It’s so nice to have people who love you,” I say to him.

People in Nashville and people in Chicago, even when they’re spread out.





Family Outdoor Dinner Menu
Friday, September 14

Tacos, with Mom’s taco meat, shredded raw cheddar cheese, a hodgepodge of raw vegetables (tomatoes, peppers, red onion) and baked sprouted corn tortillas brushed with coconut oil

Salad of Romaine lettuce, chopped tomatoes, sliced peaches, sliced red onions, balsamic vinegar, olive oil and lime juice

A bowl of fresh strawberries

Sangria of one bottle white wine (Pinot grigio), 8 to 12 ounces sparkling water, 1/2 cup honey (shaken with the water to dissolve before adding), one sliced peach, 1 1/2 to 2 cups of quartered strawberries, juice of half a lime

Baby Kale Chips (the star of the meal and the first to be gone)
All measurements are approximations

Ingredients:
Organic baby kale, as much as can fit in a large bowl
A few teaspoons of coconut oil, warmed to liquid
Salt and pepper
Crushed red pepper

Directions:
Preheat the oven to 400 degrees. In a large bowl, massage the kale with the coconut oil until it’s all well covered. Add a couple shakes of salt and pepper, then a few teaspoons of crushed red pepper. Toss. Spread kale on baking sheets and place in oven until crispy, 15 to 30 minutes (but keep your eye on them!).

Shanna Mallon

Shanna Mallon started Food Loves Writing back in 2008, as a way to remember her grandma and write about her life through food. Since then it's become a place leading her to a lifestyle of eating whole foods, a new home in Nashville and the love of her life, Tim. Follow Shanna on Twitter @foodloves, keep up with Food Loves Writing on Facebook and stay inspired with the monthly newsletter.

This Post Has 43 Comments

  1. Kathryn

    Oh I love this (I feel like I say that every time you post!). I feel exactly the same way about my family. I kept thinking that I would grow out of the desire/need to spend time with them but if anything, it grows stronger every year and it’s something that I’ve learnt to embrace. A wonderful meal.

  2. Jacqui

    Shanna! Your recent stories of gathering and family and friends have been warming my heart. Please move back to Chicago. And yes, totally cried during “Parenthood.” Like, tears streaming down my face.

  3. Paula @ Vintage Kitchen

    This post is lovely Shanna, you speak straight from the heart and it shows. I guess I say that in most of my comments but it´s true and it´s one of the things I enjoy the most about your style. You obviously can be aware of the love that surrounds you and not take it for granted but are especially thankful for it. That sounds easy but it´s not.
    The sangria with honey is a wonderful twist. And the whole table setting and pics are beautiful. You make it all look so effortless.

  4. Erin

    Oh yes. I always miss my family, too. I mean, I live near them now and I am so grateful for that, but before, when I lived 12 hours away, I missed them constantly. And yes, it means you come from a good family. :)

  5. wesley @ the way home

    I couldn’t agree more! It’s hard living away from home, particularly when the rest of your family is all there. You never know whether life will take you back there someday though! I’m sure it will if you miss them so much. I’m hoping I’ll find my way back to Nashville someday too.

    1. Shannalee

      I have always told God that I would go wherever He wanted… I didn’t think 8 hours away would be that big of a deal, but He knows how to reveal our hearts! Thankful to be here (really!) but thankful to have family, too. Oh, and PS I just have this sense you guys will wind up back here. : )

  6. julie

    Oh my word – this was so sweet for so many reasons. 1. I know and love your family and yes, they are pretty great ;) 2. Parenthood always reminds me of my family and how much I miss them! And I cry every stinkin’ episode! 3. Having now lived in VA, PA, WI, IL, and now Scotland – and I’m so thankful to have loved ones in each place! 4. The meal outdoors looked and sounded gorgeous and yummy ;)

    1. Shannalee

      Julie, You are honestly one of the first people I think of as someone I look up to in the world of relocation and being far from family. You do it so beautifully and gracefully, I only wish I could be more like you in it! Love and miss you guys!

  7. Alisha

    I am with you so very much on missing family – I thought that was just my own freshmen year-college-problem! :) (However, things are looking up – my parents actually got Internet this week for the first time. Unbelievable, I know.) Hopefully, my mom and I can Skype on a regular basis!

    Actually, this post made me miss YOU!

    The pics make you feel like you are seated at the table – beautiful! Sometimes the beauty of simple things is breath-taking…and this post captured that emotion and the thankfulness that should go with it very well. Keep writing!

    1. Shannalee

      I miss you, too, sweet girl. Thank you for those kind and thoughtful words (and PS – my parents have had Internet forever but Skype is a totally foreign concept, ha!) — wish we could gather around a table together sometime soon. : )

  8. Vicki

    What a beautiful family memory you have shared. There’s nothing wrong with having “two homes” and I think it’s great that you and Tim are able to visit Chicago as often as you do.

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